Girl Talk

[Lovefiend]

Heheh, I dunno!! Which ever you like better. You can have them on different days, like divorced parents

[gilmorefriend]

I guess the Taylor Swift one?
How are you? 

[Lovefiend]

I'm pretty good, how're you? Been up to anything interesting recently?

[gilmorefriend]

That's good!
Tommorow's my birthday (in west coast time. It's 9:30 PM. On the 15th. My birthday is on the 16th.), and Saturday is testing for 2nd degree reccomended black belt in taekwondo. Some of my friends are sleeping over on saturday.
Are you doing anything fun this weekend?

[Lovefiend]

That's so awesome, I hope you have a wonderful birthday!!!  Good luck for your Taekwondo, not that you'll need it!!! Are you friends sleeping o ver for your birthday?
Well, tonight is a friends 21st, so I'm gonna go to that, I gotta go into work for a few hours Sat morning, then to visit a friend who just got out of hospital, then Sat night I'm helping Helen babysit, then I th ink I gotta go to work for a bit on Sunday! Not as fun as yours!

[Seni]

Wow, Kate, busy weekend! So I already did this in the kiddies thread but,

HAPPY BIRTHDAY, AMBER!!!

Check out your presents in the kiddies thread 

[rory1984]

Hey everyone,
I was wondering if you could give me a bit of advice. There is this girl that I have been friends with for about 4 years. We were really close, but lately she's changed so much. She is really really smart, but she started swearing all the time. In my opinion, swearing so much makes a person sound less educated than smart...but that might just be me.  I invited her to my party, but she said she couldnt but didnt give me a reason. She did that before and when I asked why she couldnt come she kept stumbling over her words until she said her aunt was coming into town. I called the day of to make sure she didnt change her mind and her mom said she went to her friends house! I was like whatever. Am I supposed to give her the benefit of the doubt and try to keep inviting her to my parties or when my friends and I go out, or can I stop? If i invite all my other friends but not her wont she be offended?

[Miranda]

Just let her be offended then... It's not like she wants to come apparently. Maybe you could just confront her with what you found out and see how she reacts?!

[gilmorefriend]

Kate- I hope you had fun!
Ines- Thanks!
Rory- If she's been as bad as you say, she's not a real friend. She wasn't there when you wanted her. She's been going around lying to you. Not being there for you. She's had a weird behavior. Does that sound like a real friend to you?
One thing that could be causing it is problems with parents or other friends. You should try to make her really talk to you, and find out what's going on in her head. If she needs help, help her. Everything should go back to normal. It most likely is something going on with her.
I hope everything turns out well!

[Lovefiend]

Definatly agree with Amber. Tehre may be something going on  you don't now about, try and get her to open up. She also may have just grown apart from you. Sometimes in friendships one person will grow differentlly (swearing all the time vs talking nicely, for example) from the other. Maybe the other friend who's house she went to, she finds she has more in common with.  She may have changed, and now she's more like other people than like you. Rent the movie 'Thirteen' for an example of this!!

[Seni]

Yeah, you should definitely talk to her. Right away, just sort it out. I made a mistake of not confronting on of my best friends when that happened, and we've just grown apart. We're still friends, but we're so different, it's very hard to keep close, she hardly ever tells me anything. Now we almost never see each other like we used to, and we're still in the same school. So you should just ask her, what's up...if the friendship means a lot to you, try to work it out, but if she's really changed a lot..well, it happens.

[rory1984]

I thought she was just having a hard time adjusting to a new school, but she just keeps getting worse. I feel like if I try to talk to her to try to get her to open up she would feel as if I was invading her personal space. I only remember fighting with her once and it only lasted 5 minutes. It wasnt fun...She would probably just tell me I didnt know what I was doing and I was all wrong. Also, I don't expect people to get me birthday or chritmas presents. I actually wish nobody did that because it would save a lot of money. She made me feel obligated to get her a present by saying 'so what did you get me for my birthday?'. I then got her a small present, and didnt get a simple thank you. My birthday was a week ago, my party 2 weeks ago and she didnt even wish me a happy birthday. She just walked past me in the hall. 

Thanks for your advice everyone. I'll figure it out. I think Im just going to stop inviting her...maybe

[gilmorefriend]

You REALLY need to talk to her. If she has the attitude about how you have no clue what you're talking about, you at least tried. you mostly likely won't be her friend if you do nothing. If you talk to her, or at least try to talk to her, you're at least trying to do something about it.
I'm in a really bad mood when I'm around certain people (John and sometimes my dad), so that could be something. She could just be changing, but that sounds like a big change. Ask her what's wrong, open up to her, and just see what happens. It's better than nothing. If something is wrong, she'll keep getting worst and worst, unless you talk to her.   

[Lauren is my idol]

I agree. I think that you should pull her aside and tell her that you feel like she's changing. Maybe she doesn't really realize it. For example, I needed poeple to tell me when I started to become more bitchier than before and ever since then I've realized it when I'm being like that. I think that she just needs someone to tell her how she's acting and she will realize what she is losing and turn around.
I think that stopping inviting her is a good thing because it may help her realize that you're not playing around and that you are done with the way she's acting.

[GGfanemma]

Yeah. the best is to be straight with the person. She probably doesn't even realize it.