Now there's a thought. When Rory was falling for Jess, Lorelai transferred all her disapproval of the decision onto Jess, is that what Trix is doing? Is all her vitriol about what Emily should be doing for her son and granddaughter really for Richard's benefit?
It's a little ironic that Rory doesn't seem to have a coping mechanism. I mean, when Lorelai makes an observation about her decisions or her feelings, she just denies it, then secretly acts it out on her own. Like with Dean, she denies the weirdness to Lorelai, but admits it with Dean so they can be friends again. I loved the ending where Lorelai questions (and of course, she denies) the obvious absurdity her having perfected balancing bf and jealous just-a-friend on her first second try.