Girl Talk

[Lovefiend]

Exactly. There is far too much random misery and evil in the world to believe there's a plan. At the least, if there is a plan, it's a terrible malevolent one, and I'm not wasting any of my time worshipping the entity which created it.

[ImAGilmoreGirl]

HAPPY BIRTHDAY GENA!!! *Pretty Stick*

[gracelandia]

Argh!  It has become increasingly apparent (especially last night) that one of my best guy friends likes me.  I'm freaking out here!  I know it's kind of a common scenario, but I don't know how to deal with that  Any advice?

[CathyCoffee]

Last night??
And I'm guessing you don't feel the same way?

[gilmorefriend]

Grace- Do you like him back?

[gracelandia]

Oh geeze, I didn't mean last night like in a dirty way, just that last night I was with a group of friends including him.  And he's usually the kind of person who hugs people a lot, including his female friends (which he has a lot of), but lastely he's been especially weird around me and my other friends notice it.
I think he's awesome as a friend but I definitely don't like him as a guy.  That's my story.

[CathyCoffee]

Well if it's apparent that he likes you, then you need to tell him how you feel.
But if you really don't know for sure(if he likes you, don't say anything, just give off a "I don't like you more than a friend" way, just to be safe.
You don't want to make the situation akward by bringing up an awkward situation in itself and it not even be true.

Did that make any sense??

[GilmoreGrlBabe]

hey im new to the board my name is Shanya, well i have a friend and she told that she is cutting and smoking. i really want to tell her parents but i dont know if i should. i mean she is my best friend!!!! i dont want our relationship going down the toliet because i told her parents what shes doing. i jusr dont want her to get hurt! im just stuck in the middle and i hate being stuck in the middle!!! i really hope you guys can give me so advice!!

[laurygilmore]

Shanya, I hate when people smokes, especially if he/she is a friend of mine. But I think you should better talk to her and not to her parents, because she'll probably get mad with you. Talk to her and make her understand that what she does isn't good for her. If she's a really good friend she will make the effort and stop smoking. That's my advice and good luck with your friend!!

[GilmoreGrlBabe]

thanks so much laurygilmore!!!

[CathyCoffee]

I agree with that too. See if you can help her. Talk to her about why she's cutting. Tell her how much you hate smoking. Etc.

[Lovefiend]

The other thing, is if she' s doing it for attention (which it would seem that it is, because she told you) don't give her attention for it. then she'll learn that's the best way to get attetntion.
Ignore the things she's told you, but give her attention in other ways, she probably needs you as a friend right now, and doesn't know how else to tell you, than to do something 'bad' in the hope you'll come rushing to her side. So don't make a big deal of it.  Pretend it's normal, but make sure you're extra nice to her, pay her lots of attention and do lots with her.  The fact that she's asking for attention means she needs it, but you don't want to reward behaiviour like sm oking and cutting. They're both incredibly hard habits to break, so you don't want her thinking they're th ebest way of getting friends to pay her attention

[gracelandia]

Well if it's apparent that he likes you, then you need to tell him how you feel.
But if you really don't know for sure(if he likes you, don't say anything, just give off a "I don't like you more than a friend" way, just to be safe.
You don't want to make the situation akward by bringing up an awkward situation in itself and it not even be true.

Did that make any sense??

it does, thanks

[CathyCoffee]

Well if it's apparent that he likes you, then you need to tell him how you feel.
But if you really don't know for sure(if he likes you, don't say anything, just give off a "I don't like you more than a friend" way, just to be safe.
You don't want to make the situation akward by bringing up an awkward situation in itself and it not even be true.

Did that make any sense??

it does, thanks

No problem! 

[Ange]

Shanya, ok so i read up a little on whats going on and i think that you need to sit down and talk with her in a serious matter...let her know how you feel and let her know that you are there to support her and be friends!!!! but honestly if it gets to hard for you to handle and you need help get it...maybe not from her parents right away but you cant let you see your friend go down the wrong path i know!!!!