Er, my point, is, regardless of all that, laying aside all debates from the factions of the audience, Lorelai, speaking for the writer of the episode, who was ultimately speaking for David Rosenthal was telling the audience that Logan isn't the guy. Case closed, end of story.
She hated surprises like Richard's impromptu Yale interview at the Bulldogs game, and she was irritated to highly annoyed by Logan's pop-theater courtship. Particularly, though, I meant the way she overreacted, criticized, and eventually grew a distaste for his surprise visits from faraway places without calling first. She liked to be prepared for things, even swoony things like being proposed to in public. And with important things, surprise springs her into action with lots of stress, self flagellation, and excessive verbalization about pros and cons.
As for Logan and Rory not being done yet/ not having time to unravel their breakup, I agree. But with imagination and a concerted effort of fans, all things are possible.
I think you may be reading a little too much manipulation into the final remarks, though. For one, just because Logan isn't "right" now doesn't mean he never could have been. As for scriptwriter denial, all I can say is, at least you finally agree they should have broken up while he was in London. But in hindsight, a stable, highly committed relationship with few demands on her time seems perfect for her.
And I thought Lorelai was trying to tell her that being with the right guy would be "right," and that's how she would know who he was. Logan wasn't, it seems, because keeping him open as an option required that too much of her presumably limitless potential be factored out. I don't mind that it didn't look
harder on her, I'm not a sadist. But big things were happening for Rory, things she wanted and presumably deserved, and Logan, like Dean, tried to get in the way of that in order to possess her. And, like Dean, (and maybe Lorelai) broke up because he needed to come first. Was Lorelai comparing Rory to herself or Luke?